Sunday, July 21, 2013

Month Anniv 2.0



Love is sweeter the second time around.

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After “love is blind”, “love is like a box of chocolates“, and  “love is like a rosary that is full of mysteries”, this quote probably rounds up the top 4 cliches about love. While others say that broken hearts will never heal again, there are those who believe that a relationship is at its strongest after going through fights and breakups.

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Back in 2008, my girlfriend and I decided that it was time to part ways. Being in a long distance relationship, we felt that things would be better if we lived separate lives. The thinking was that we were okay as a couple but we were more suited as friends. After a few rounds of boxing against indecision, we threw the towel.

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It was such a tough time adjusting to my newly found freedom. The nights we used to spend talking to each other were gone. There was no one to wake up every morning. Sweet nothings were kept unsent in my phone. Like an addict going through withdrawal, it was psychophysically taxing.

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The thing about breakups is that common friends often choose sides. It’s a two-step process where they first decide on who cried the most and then diligently perform their friendsponsibilities (see what I did there?) with that person. Though we both were depressed, I was the one with less tears.

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Almost all failed relationships follow a certain pattern. It begins from moping around because it failed (1st),  to asking (in a melodramatic tone) why it failed (2nd), to half-heartedly accepting that it failed (3rd), and then gleefully celebrating the fact that it failed (4th). Somewhere between 2nd and 3rd, I felt that I had a decision to make. We knew that we had something special going on. There was this constant feeling that our relationship would reach epic heights one day. Distance was our only issue. That and time difference perhaps. But was I about to put this “something special” on an indefinite hiatus just because of thousands of miles? What happens to our future babies then?

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Nothing against friends but they do have this tendency of going overboard when consoling the depressed. In a short amount of time, there were layers of new advice on old issues and countless ingenious ways of saying “It’s time to move on”. That’s the worst part. I had to overcome all of them or else it’s the real end of the end. It was the proverbial “now or never’. Unfriending them had to begin soon.

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We all take chances in life. Some make us. Some break us. Some chances we grab. Some chances we decline. However, the only one we should not take is the chance to not do anything.

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It started with “How are you?”. Then it moved to “I’m sorry”. It became “I miss you”. But then, I held back. I asked myself “What am I doing?”. It changed to “Am I ready?”. Countless “What if’s?” followed. And then I stopped with “I still..”

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October 20, 2008.


It was lunchtime when I woke up and saw the image below.

It came with a short note.

Hello po!!!

Gising na.. sensya na sa ginawa ko sa Adobe. Newbie. May delay pa sa mouse. Ayun. Di ko alam kung magigising kita maya. Ingatz sa lakad mo. Taena sakit ng mata ko. Gusto ko matulog. Pero di ako matutulog. Maya na lang. wala na akong masabi. Trabaho nako after nito. Ingat ka parate. Eyun. wala na talga ulit akong masabi. Tulog ka ngayon. Ako andito lang. Eyun. Tae wala talaga akong masabi. Gudpm! Ligo na po.. Paakap.. hmmmmmm........

.Kittz.



I cried and called her up while sobbing.
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Together again. And maybe, for good. Love was indeed sweeter the second time around.

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Epilogue:
I never stopped loving her since that day. In fact, I asked for her hand just a few months afterwards and she became my wife on June 2009. We then tied the knot once more last March 2011 and will definitely do it again soon.

Lastly, the said future babies will be conceived in the next 3 years I guess.

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